So often our advice is for us, not for them

I had a giggle at myself the other day, when I realized that there is a particular subject that I’ve been often offering unsolicited advice about in the last few months and really it was for me. This happens a lot, don’t you find?

It especially happens to us coach/therapist types, because it does make sense to help people experiencing what you went before originally. But it can even happen about newer stuff: its always worth me taking note if I have a pile of people through the door, all with the same issue, because it probably means I need to take a bit of my own advice.  Of course I’ve been on maternity leave, so it’s been more subtle this time.

It happens because of a concept called ‘reflection’ which means you see in others what you see (sometimes subconsciously) in yourself. So if you think someone needs improving, it’s probably you that does! The nice side to this is to remember that when you see something fabulous in someone else it’s also in you. I’m bound to blog about this more sometime, so don’t worry if it doesn’t totally make sense now.

So my thing? I’d been giving people basic advice on getting found by google etc, because if clients or customers can’t find you, then they don’t think you are serious about getting business. So when I mentioned to my lovely mummy blogger mates muddling along and zooarcheologist that I wondered whether people actually wanted blogs like mine (service ones with tips etc) because my blog stats are lower than normal ‘mummy blogs’, guess what their answer was: ‘you’re really difficult to find’!

Bless them, they knew the answer, because they had bothered to notice, and I was really touched. The problem is that my main Mummy Whisperer site and my site for the other side of my work pop up first rather than my blog.  Plus, I haven’t been able to blog so much with the arrival of Little Dimples, and being unwell.

So this week I’m going to work on getting found and take some of my own advice. If you’ve got any tips for me, this is the week to let me know, even constructive criticisms! Ooh and if you like my blog, you’re welcome to let other people know and help me out a little.

I hope that anyone I’ve tried to help over the past few months, knew I was trying to be helpful, rather than irritating!

2 comments

  1. I agree about reflection and about the website. Love the blog BTW. So, what are some good tips to get your site noticed..?

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