I was asked to come up with top tips for people worried about what to by for friends and loved ones from Christmas and Birthdays by the lovely Danny Smith from Radio Verulam‘s drive time show (92.6FM).
It’s a tough job to come up with a present or gift that you can afford, and that they love getting. But it’s not impossible! My last post was about presents for children, this one is for the grown ups in your life.
If you prefer to hear Danny and I talking than read this post, check out the link at the bottom.
How to cut costs and still send great presents:
1) The first rule is don’t go into debt for christmas, unless you are sure you can pay it off the next month. No one is worth over spending for; in fact I can pretty much promise you that the present will go wrong if you spend too much.
2) If you are struggling financially, especially at Christmas, then cut all the budgets for presents in half. You can often buy a great present for 50% of what you used to spend e.g. £30 vs £15. It might take some extra effort, but it’s still possible.
3) If things are really bad have an honest chat with your friends and family; no friends who are worth anything will mind not getting an expensive present or not getting anything at all. Just ask if you can skip this year, or do a secret santa with a price limit of £5 or £10, which means loads of thought.
4) Cut postage costs at christmas with a thoughtful email with photos and interesting info (not showing off stuff!) or send online cards. (Some people also make a donation to charity)
5) Hand made presents are still appreciated: some people make lovely candles, cakes, tarts, or a scrap book with photos in it.
6) Do something for them instead e.g. some DIY or fixing something.
7) Don’t over spend on food; it’s not about making sure you become lardy bloaters. I do my shopping online so that I can keep going back and double checking my 2 christmas food shops (one for big long lasting stuff, the other for perishables).
8) For parties or Christmas dinner ask people to bring something; it’s lovely to feel like you’ve contributed to a meal and helped out. It’s easy to, as they could bring cheese and biscuits/pudding/starter/wine/chocolates etc.
9) Don’t get conned into spending lots of money on Christmas decorations; they really don’t have to match of have a theme. Make some if you have none, and then buy them in the sales on Boxing Day for next year. Remember the Pound shops will help you out with getting loads of buck for your money. DONT GO TO THE GORGEOUS GARDEN CENTRE GROTTO unless you have your bank with you!
Important Information For Dads
How to buy presents that people like!
Just as in my previous post about presents for children, the rule of something they want, they need, to wear and to read is a good starting point. Remember also something to watch or listen to.
The key is to buy something that people actually want, not what you think they want or like!
Be a detective.
Listen to them.
Remember the lost art of conversation.
1) What do they have around the house
2) What do they spend their money on
3) What do they spend their time on
4) Who do they spend their time with
1) What do they have around the HOUSE:
Don’t add to a collection if already full!
Something that is going to use up like smelly things is great or a treat they can’t afford. Check their cupboards for hints: which bottles are untouched (disliked) and which are nearly finished?
Don’t buy paper books if they use a kindle or don’t read!
Are they smart, minimalistic and modern, vintage, old fashioned or cutsey?
Do they love pictures and have a space? Do they love photos? Are they running out of space, hows about an electronic photo frame?
2) What do they spend their MONEY on:
People generally spend their money on what they like the most. With a Mum you might need to think back to before kids though, and then add a dash of common sense about the fact that some of those things she would still love a chance to do and some are now inappropriate!
Also ignore the fact that a Mum tends to spend more money on herself than her kids and check out what she gives her friends as presents.
What does she need to spend her money on; clothes, PJ’s, scarves, hats, bags, filofaxes (oops sorry that’s me!), boxes (me again!)? What has she forgotten to buy for herself?
3) What do they spend their TIME doing:
We again tend to spend our timing doing what is most important to us. Even the boring chores will be different for each person as to how much of a priority they take.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that just because they do all the cooking, that they want something for the kitchen though! When I asked on twitter, Mummy Barrow told us a great story of how her – mother in law was given a food processor, which got dumped straight back in her husbands lap with a few choice words. Ironically the Big Hairy Northern one is a lover of gadgets, so potentially that wouldn’t have failed for him!
4) WHO do they spend their time with:
The ones that they really enjoy spending their time with, not the supermarket assistants! Who would they like to spend more time with? Maybe a trip for the family to a show? Maybe a national trust membership for the family? Perhaps organise a surprise visit from their best mate?
What do they think about the latest fads, or shops? Are they a Cath Kidston type of woman, or an Apple Mac type of man?
And men remember this all important rule: THIS IS NOT LIKE A MAP,
ask …. unlike when you need directions!