This weekend, I met a ‘bully’ and gained even more insights into their psychology. I think that the important thing to remember is that each person and situation is unique, and to remember the concept of balance. What are they balancing out within their family dynamic? What are they balancing out within themselves? What are they balancing out within the […]
I have created the 6 step Flexible Family Solution as an adaptable process that I can teach to Mums to deal with their unique families and ever changing daily challenges. There are 6 steps: 1) Step 1 is for the Mum to learn what her needs are 2) Step 2 is to learn what her Family’s needs are 3) Step […]
So, if you or your child is being bullied, then it may just be in a minor form, and so it’s not a huge button presser. However, if bullying is a big deal for you, then it is really worth you checking out this post. Keep an open mind while reading it please! Remember, the reason I’m telling you all […]
Oooh, that’s a challenging title. But bear with me. Some has just contacted me to say that ‘Once a bully always a bully and once a bullied always a bullied’, which is what prompted me to write this post, which I’ve been meaning to get around to for ages. There is an ounce of truth in the quote that I […]
Why does a child bully?
How to manage the scales of ‘support’ and ‘challenge’ in your child’s life.
So everyone is against bullying, and there are loads of people saying that we need to get rid of it. But is that really true? For one thing, it’s impossible, bullying has always has been, and always will be part of human nature. So anyone attempting to remove it totally, is just wasting time and effort. (That doesn’t mean we […]
So this post follows on from the previous one about the fact that only 50% of the world likes you at any one time! I was attempting to look at my life as a child, bullied from the moment I entered school at 4.5, right up to when I left after A levels. My mother was clearly over-involved in my […]
Lots of us are very driven by what people outside of us think, and so it is important to us that we are liked. Other people are totally aware of their own value, and therefore only worry about what they think about themselves. The ideal is a bit of both, because the internally focussed people can lack social skills, and […]