Who am I? I’m a Mum, who loves to be a Mum. I’m not a perfect Mum. I’m a real Mum, with wrinkles lots of To Do’s, and a constant struggle to juggle time.
I’ve got 2 children, Curly Headed Boy (6yrs in 2011) and Little Dimples (1yr in 2011), a big labradoodle and I’ve been with the Big Hairy Northern Hubby for 22yrs. That also makes me pretty old at 42!
I’m an awarding winning blogger (ooh get me!)
I’m a best selling Amazon author (whoop whoop)
I’m a ‘Mummy Whisperer’; someone who helps Mums to enjoy being a Mum more, regain their confidence and sparkle, and listen to themselves. I’m not a parenting coach, I help Mums build their own confidence and where necessary teach them about human behaviour, but not parenting techniques. I have a few 1to1 clients and used to run workshops and do online coaching, but that has been delayed whilst my daughter is still young.
I don’t believe there is any ‘one’ way to raise a child.
I think we should all agree to disagree as Mums, and be strong enough to accept our differences.
I’m also just ‘me’; someone who loves sparkly stuff, chocolate, walking the dog, trashy TV, Zumba, and my kindle. I’m a pretty rubbish cook, and tend to be pretty grounded whilst being half tree-hugger and half geek.
What is my Background/Qualifications?
In terms of qualifications, I worked in IT for 13 years following a BA Business Studies degree. Life was stressful at work, and as a team leader I was given introductory training in personal development techniques like NLP and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. Then I got more interested in the ‘healing’ (tree hugging!) side of alternative therapies and trained as a Reiki Master and Holographic Repatterning Practitioner (now Resonance Repatterning). I needed something that appealed to the ‘computer programming’ side of me that was more in-depth and discovered Dr John Demartini in 2003, and certified as the UK’s first Demartini Method Facilitator (now senior). I have worked and taught people from all walks of life, and with all types of problems, pains and traumas. From betrayal, depression, financial difficulties and health problems to past abuse. I still have a part of my business which is purely orientated towards people studying with Dr D, as I have a knack of being able apply, simplify and teach his methods, so if you are also interested in his work, you might like my ‘Dance of Life’ blog.
But what has helped me the most is my experiences! My parents were unwell and elderly (and drank a bit!), so I was what is termed nowadays a ‘young carer’. My Dad died when I was 20, and my Mum died when I was 36 and pregnant with Curly Headed Boy. There’s loads of juiceness in my past!
I met David (my husband) when I was 20, so we have spent 22yrs together – that gives me plenty of opportunity to practice making a relationship work, nothing that long is ever plane sailing ;o) Then at 36 I suddenly fell pregnant having been told at 19 that I’d never be able to have children – and Curly Headed Boy turned out to be the best teacher I have ever had. Having thought I would never want children, I have LOVED being a Mum. But I soon realised how lucky I was to have had the training and experiences that I had beforehand and hence ‘The Mummy Whisperer’ was born so that I could share what I knew. Then I fell pregnant at 40 again by surprise, and now I have my complete family; I am a very lucky Mum.
Me As A Mum
So, just incase anyone reading my blog, or my site are imagining that I’m exagerating about not being a perfect Mum, I thought I would share some info about what I am and am not good at, because everyone is perfectly imperfect!
I totally planned on Curly Headed Boy being in his cot by 3 months, own room by 6 months, and losing all the baby weight really quickly. Obviously, I only had 7 months notice of being pregnant, and it was a bit of a shock (a nice one, but still a shock), so I didn’t manage to fantasize much, but those were my plans, along with walking the ‘darling baby’ in a pram for hours. I also planned, to take as many drugs as possible during the birth, because I was scared of pain, despite being into alternative therapies and have a water birth.
The few plans I had went totally to pot! He was born in 4hrs, no time for drugs, and at 6 months I took the decision to co-sleep. And so I was introduced to ‘motherhood’ not ever going quite to plan!
The irony is that some of the things that I think I did ‘right’, you will disagree with. Then some of the things that I think were technically ‘wrong’ you will think weren’t important at all!
None of us can get it all right. But if we listen to our wise inner voices, we’ll do what works for us and our family (sometimes with the odd glitch first, when we realise that something didn’t work!).
