I’ve used this technique many times and it is really effective – just requires a little patience.
I’ve manifested a boyfriend, (who became a husband … be careful ??????), friend, new work opportunities and new boyfriend – it’s REALLY successful as a technique!
Sit down, centre yourself, count your blessings … (this is always a good pace to start for any kind of manifestation of spiritual practice)
Write a list of what you don’t want, what the problem is, what you think you need.
1) WHAT YOU DON’T WANT
It’s really important to be clear on what you don’t want, otherwise you can miss out important factors
This is where it went wrong for me husband wise – I didn’t know enough about what I didn’t want.
2) WRITE A LIST OF WHAT YOU DO WANT
Wtite as detailed a list as possible of what you would love.
Although you do want to be flexible.
Remember, with relationships, it is more about how they make us feel …. hence you need to be open to unusual options that crop up
Think about personality, where they are, is it face to face or online, how old, how many, what do they do, how do they behave, how do they speak, what do they like to do for hobbies.
You want a really detailed picture of them
3) WHERE DO THEY HANG OUT?
Where do these people tend to hang out – have a little think and research on where they might be?
Many of our relationships are relationships of convenience – we meet people at work / school gates etc. Which is fine.
But if you are not in any of those situations, then you might want to consider clubs, online groups etc.
4) PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE
Go where they are …. give them a chance to find you
Remember they will be looking for you too – this came as a surprise to me, as it’s easy to think we are the only ones who feel alone!
Be open hearted – be open to meeting them.
5) APPRECIATE YOURSELF
In the meantime appreciate yourself, why they would want to be friends with you or go out with you or employ you?
You maybe lacking in confidence – and people can be shallow – so there maybe reasons that people don’t want to be friends with you. This is fine. We are focussing on the people who DO – which is way more than you think.
6) ACT AS THE BEST VERSION OF YOU
You might want to consider taking action and acting in a way that assumes they are coming and you are making the best of yourself.
For instance, maybe you would like a new partner – perhaps it is worth a hair cut and doing some exercise.
Perhaps you would like a new job – so you might want to learn a new skill or improve something you are doing.
Or you would like more friends – so you might start to take better care of yourself, so that you have more to give energetically.
7) TAKE THE OPPORTUNITIES AND ‘WOO’ A FEW
When someone turns up, take the opportunity to woo them – ask them for coffee, have a chat on facebook, see where it goes.
Ask them lots of questions and check out their actions … are they really who you think they are? I was certainly fooled in past relationships by someone saying the right things.
You might not think this is important friendship wise, but there are some people that you would be better off lonely without, than friends with them!
8) NEVER UNDER ESTIMATE WHO YOU CAN MEET
Finally, just never under estimate the power of a manifestation list and who you can meet online or by chance.
Remember to be friendly – I think that is the mistake many people make. I will talk to pretty much anyone, anywhere – to the HUGE embarrassment of my kids ?
And be kind – I’ve made a lot of great friends from being kind (obviously be careful of the people who take advantage of you – I’m now more discerning).
I met new friends at a school fair, online, at my salon, spiritual events, shopping queues, online memberships, courses – all sorts! My ex-husband, I met in a library of all places! I’ve seen people meet on tiktok – a lot! This is where my shuffling teacher came from, and my fellow class mates were a big support group for me. My best friend at uni was someone who I met on the first day, who didn’t have anywhere to stay, so she slept on my floor for a week. One of my biggest supports during the early days of the salon, was someone I’d met on an animal communication course (psychic stuff), who came to visit me, and ended up staying for 2 years.
9) REASON, SEASON, LIFETIME
We all know the saying that some people are here with you for a reason (normally a lesson or to help out quickly) or a season (so a period in your life) or a lifetime.
I want you to be open to the changes of life and accept that we aren’t always ready to let go of people or ideas of what ‘should’ be … but this is the key to making space for new people.
10) FEEL THE FEELS
I’m not one for vision boards to be honest, I feel that is a little old hat now a days – but if you want to, please go ahead and make one that describes all the things you would love to do with your friends.
You’ve already written the lists, so mentally you also have a clear picture.
Now you want to ‘feel the feels’ – so do things that make you feel like you would when you have that friendship. The easiest way I ‘did’ this, without having to be too conscious about it, was to binge watch a netflix program with someone in it that epitomised the sort of character I was looking to meet.
You all deserve to feel very loved and appreciated.
Remember that ?
And while you are waiting, be kinder to yourself ?