Something I’ve seen a lot is that if we don’t keep pushing our limits or even keeping our limits at the current level, then our horizons start to shrink and we start to limit ourselves terribly.
I’ve been there – scared of parking in a multi-storey car park, or suddenly realising I haven’t done a long journey in years, or nervous about going to a networking event and meeting new people!
I’m not even talking about something huge like jumping out of a helicopter. But then for you, going into town might actually BE huge.
In this video I talk about something scary I’m about to do (wish me luck), a really inspiring old lady with a brilliant tip and how to get over your fear of doing facebook lives:
So the tip is – keep pushing your boundaries just a little, every week.
NOT so that you can succeed or be wonderful at it.
Purely because you can BE PROUD that you did it!
I’m just hoping I don’t fall off and land on my bottom LOL!
It’s not that I want to put you off running a business.
But I do want to save the people not really up for it a world of pain.
Plus, if you are running your own business, then I want you to look at these questions and make a clear decision in your head that you are willing to do what it takes – you will then be so much more successful.
Here’s a quick summary of what I mention in the video, so that you can refer back to it and jog your memory:
Does your whole strategy match?
Does your SWOT suggest anything unviable?
Will it earn what you need?
Are you willing to develop as a person?
Do you have the commitment level?
Are you willing to challenge your limiting beliefs?
Will it fit into your life?
If you won £1million tomorrow, would you still do it?
If you would like more help with tackling these different areas of business, then that is one of the things that my ‘Lets Get Started’ program will do for you.
Desperation and Busyness lead to Ridiculousness and Lack Of Discernment!
You see small business owners all the time falling prey to being too busy to be sensible or so desperate to get new clients that they make bad decisions:
– Promoting their business in inappropriate places
– Stalking their competitors
– Following strategies that expensive ‘Gurus’ tell them
– Spending thousands they don’t have on programs
– Running round like headless chickens, but not getting the basics right
– Copying other companies products or services
– Following strategies their network marketing team leader taught them that are manipulative and give it a bad reputation
Frankly about 90% of small business owners have fallen prey to one or other of these at some point (I’ve seen all 6 over the last few weeks) – so show them compassion and try not to take it personally. ?
You might have to have clear boundaries if they have misbehaved in your area, but honestly, don’t take it too personally or judge them too harshly.?
And beware it – we’ve all been there!
So when considering an action, consider ….
Am I sharing from the heart?
Can I afford this?
Do I only want to buy this for fear of missing out?
Am I falling prey to ‘shiny’ new system/strategy/course syndrome?
Am I undervaluing what I can do already?
Would I behave like this in real life (vs online)?
Is this wise?
If you are considering some extra support, get in touch or check out my online membership programs – they are specifically aimed at giving you all that you need, whilst not adding extra financial pressure.
Plus I’ve made all the mistakes, and fallen for all the FOMO offers and bought all the shiny new courses/strategies or deep spiritual journey’s – so I can tell you exactly what does and doesn’t work, save you a tonne of money and get you there easily and quickly.
Wether it’s with the kids, friends or EVEN YOUR BUSINESS – there is a degree of sharing that is so important to do, from the heart, with no strings attached.?
We invest in our kids – after school clubs, clothes, food, time etc. And whilst we might teach them to be grateful for what they have and to take care of their belongings. We also need to step back and let them make of it what they will – maybe the money you spent on Karate will become something they then continue for life, maybe it won’t, but that’s not our job to say.
In business I’m strong on sharing tips, my free group, free courses, free healing completely with no strings attached. I’ll mention other options to work deeper with me, but I would be happy for someone to accept free healing from me EVERY week (please do – mondays!) without ever buying a single thing from me.
Don’t make it a burden – that’s the key!
Don’t spend so much on your kids education that it means you will have an expectation on what they do with it afterwards.
Don’t give to your online community so much, that you are expecting them to engage, or buy something from you.
Don’t make your free gift so big that it is detrimental to you to give it freely.
Because I promise you they can feel it – and it feels yucky ?
I’ve been there – wondering why people in my groups didn’t engage – expectation & strings! ?
Wondering why people I did things for, didn’t seem to appreciate it or reciprocate – expectation & strings! ?
Wondering why people didn’t want my free gifts on my site – expectation and strings ?
I hear coaches all the time, upset that people didn’t pick up their free offer – but WHY SHOULD THEY? They are busy and it just didn’t float their boats. It doesn’t mean you should beat yourself up for it – it means you need to look at it and adjust. But they are NOT beholden to take it. EVEN IF YOU KNOW THEY NEED IT ?
It’s tough I know – but the more you become aware of the strings, the more you will be able to cut them.
And then ironically, the more people will take you up on your offers and things will work out – maybe not ‘to plan’ – but they will work out! ?
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This is a tip I shared more in-depth, in my Business Booster course today in the Business Clinic.
I so understand the frustration of creating great free gifts or having free groups but seeming to get no engagement or interest.
The key was to learn to share with no expectation of results.
I’ve also found that setting goals, but then taking intuitive actions instead of actions linked to those goals is massively helpful.
I’ve had loads of people ask to join my Business Booster program today (it’s the last free run). Originally I was just going to leave the material in there for free next week for people to catch up. But that means the new people will only get a practical boost and no energetic boost. So I’m going to extend the energetic part of the program into next week.
So if you would love a business health check, lots of practical and technical tips on bringing in new clients or managing to do’s, or considering creating online programs. Then feel free to pop in – you are all welcome – no strings attached ??
If you are reading this after December 1st 2019, never fear! I will be running the Business Booster every 4-6 times a year, and although it’s not free, it is only £29 for lifetime access, which is a steal (and it is meant to be, as if you feel the need for a boost, you probably can’t invest and shouldn’t invest a lot, until you’ve got some results).
I have so many small businesses approach me who are not managing to make enough profit from their business, or even any kind of profit at all, that one of the first tips I have for them is cost management.
It’s harsh, but fair to say that if you haven’t earned it yet, then you shouldn’t spend it – not if you would love a successful business in future. It doesn’t just affect the bottom line, it also affects the energetics of the business.
Then it’s important to analyse your spending habits in the business and make sure that the percentage spent on each area is reasonable – plus that where possible it actually helps to move the business forwards, so there is some form of saving or earning from it.
This can be really tough when you are surrounded by adverts on social media all day long telling you that you NEED this new shiny course – they have the strategy that will sort everything for you and you won’t be able to succeed without it! Especially if you are a lover of learning new stuff!!
So here are my tips for how much to control your training or personal development costs (from a recovering addict for personal development courses and books!).
This is a slightly ironic tip for 2 reasons … My biggest vice is spending stuff on learning things – I’ve literally had to hand cuff myself to stop this addiction to new sparkly things to learn.
Plus one of my services is courses for small businesses and I’m also back doing consulting in the corporate market!
But even so, I firmly believe that us small business owners need to keep a strict tab on how much we spend – my new goal is to not spend more than 10% on training or personal development. If I want to do an expensive course/program, then I will need to earn more in order to do it. Plus I now keep tabs on those no-brainer priced memberships programs, as I had built up a large number of them and it all adds up.
When I do invest in anything now, I do expect a palpable return or saving. Whilst spiritual development is important, It’s not ok for a course/program for businesses to not be built around either saving you money or making you money.
Otherwise what it does is add to the pressure of making more money – and most small businesses already have enough of that! I think it’s reasonable to expect 5-10x your investment – that’s certainly what I aim to deliver or more!
Plus to help with new shiny object syndrome, I sit for a moment and think ‘Is this course a 100% Yes course?’ or am I interested because I’m worried about missing out or have fear about something? For me to spend my time on it, even if it is FREE, it needs to be 100% something I want to do.
Hope that tip helps, let me know what you think?
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If your business needs a boost, I’ve got just the thing for you (yes, ironically I am now mentioning purchasing a course LOL!) – My Business Booster program!
Plus if you are watching this before the end of Nov 2019, it’s FREE for one more time starting on Fri 15th! But even after that, it’s really affordable, as it’s aimed at businesses that need a boost or are just starting out. Plus once you are in, you can re-attend any time (it will run 4-6 times a year).
You’ll get both a practical and energetic boost for your business and a healthcheck to make sure there are no gaps that will cause you trouble.
The last group loved it so much, they are all attending again – check out their testimonials and more information here:
Ok, so to be Kim Kardashian or JLo might take some effort, but honestly, it’s not complicated or hard work to feel healthier and fitter – even if that means losing weight.
Even if you have struggled with losing weight in the past!
Even if you have tried every diet under the sun!
Even if you are older or struggling with a health condition!
Please watch this video on what it is that you actually need and how easy it is ….
Yes, you do need to make a firm decision that this is what you want.
And it might change your personality and priorities a bit.
And it might take a little while for that ‘new you’ to get completely locked in.
But your body has all the wisdom you need to be able to do it and it can guide you to the right combination of nutrition and exercise that will work for you and remind you to drink more water.
It’s not about ‘hard work’, it’s about feeling amazing in your body and listening to what nurtures it and makes it feel wonderful – it’s just a matter of following your intuition and pleasure!
If you’d like help to get healthier, fitter and slimmer and know more about my ‘Body Reboot’ program click here. But if not, don’t worry – I wish you well and would like to remind you that you really deserve to feel healthier and fitter, plus it’s in everyone’s best interests that you DO take care of yourself <3
This is part of my ‘Magic Switch’ course, which you can access for free in my facebook group ‘#MUMMYWHISPERER Tips’ – it’s aim is to help you literally wave a Magic Wand on your life!
It’s a bit of a tough talk to start off the course – but it WILL help you, and that’s what matters to me ….
When life is tough, often the people around us are stressed as well and the atmosphere becomes yucky (technical term!). So this is one you might want to share with the rest of the family!
Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I’d like you to spend the next 2 weeks making a concerted effort to do the following. Only because it will make you feel better, not because you are <insert whatever judgemental term you think I’m thinking>:
1) No Complaining:
I know life is tough, and certainly chat to a friend about it. But generally, try to hold off about complaining about your health, lack of weight loss, financial troubles, job etc.
If someone asks, don’t say ‘Fine’ – that unmistakable fake answer us British give. But say something like ‘Up and down’ or ‘On the up’ or ‘Getting easier’.
2) No Bitching:
I’m not suggesting you are a bitch. But when we are stressed it can be easy to end up complaining about people.
Yes, if you have a situation with someone, you might want to chat it over with a friend. But keep it factual, and stay away from guessing their motivations etc.
3) No Blame:
I’m not talking about big issues and saying people shouldn’t take responsibility for their actions. Just that sometimes finger pointing in the family doesn’t get us anywhere. Sometimes, we have to have reasonable expectations of our kids/partners and where they are at. Sometimes there isn’t anyone to blame, however much we would like there to be, because it would explain why it happened.
Shit happens.
Kids are kid.
Teenagers are sometimes!
Puppies chew sofas (well mine did last week – ugh!)
None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.
Here is a video to go into more depth about why complaining about life, bitching about other people and always trying to find someone or something to blame, won’t help you:
The aim is to reduce the negative, spiky energy around you – so we can start to add a lighter one. I promise it will help!
Don’t make the mistake of putting yourself last this summer!
It’s so easy to do – and I have totally been there.
But come September there are loads of mums who have put their health, happiness and businesses on hold and end up feeling frazzled, disgruntled and sad at the lack of happy memories.
Don’t get me wrong, spending great fun times with the kids this summer, is something I am massively looking forward to! I’m planning on creating a huge number of happy memories.
But not at the cost of my health, fitness and business.
No I’m not going to do work that is unnecessary. But neither am I planning on losing my momentum. Plus my health is so much better, I have bit fitness goals for this summer!
Watch this video to encourage yourself and help you think through what is important to you this summer!
Plus there are a few options/offers available to you ….
– Have a few pounds to lose? – QUICK – join my facebook group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips and you can still get access to my [Reboot] 3 day detox program. Sorry, if you are reading this after July 23rd – it’s no longer free! But it is available to buy here: https://mummywhisperer.com/rebootdetox/
– Have some big health, fitness and weight loss goals? QUICK – I am just reopening the doors to my ‘Be Healthy, fit & slim for life program’. If you check out this page, there is more information on the program and a look inside. https://mummywhisperer.com/be-healthy-course/
Plus here is a video explaining exactly why you would want to work with me (or not, as the case may be!).
– Have a business that needs a kickstart or boost? – message me – I have a new program about to start, with an amazing offer, that makes the summer holiday lull no problem from a time and financial perspective – but when I open the doors on it, it will be very limited, so make sure you don’t miss out!
– Remember there is my FREE ‘Magic Switch’ course in my facebook group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips – this will definitely help keep you sane when the kids go feral LOL!
Very big hugs and remember that you deserve to have a wonderful summer holidays AND be happy AND be healthy AND have a successful business!
What an amazingly inspiring and informative week this #MentalHealthAwareness week is!
I thought I would share how I handle the crushing depression, general anxiety and crippling brain fog that I get (or used to get) with my Lyme Disease and Fibromyalgia.
Watch this video for a much more detailed description of what it feels like and how I handle it, but here is a quick summary ….
Crushing depression – is Vitamin B – get your Dr to check your vitamin and minerals if yours feels like the one I describe.
Anxiety – get moving – my local beginners dance class is key to handling this
Brain fog – Omega 3, 6 & 9 oils and Circulation are key to improving this. Plus tap dancing or playing the piano to improve the synapses in my brain.
But most of all it’s about accepting who I am and working with it, instead of against myself – I am who I am, and that is someone who will always need to look after myself, even once I am symptom free.
I have created my own system to deal with the ups and downs of life called ‘Heal your life’ which incorporates journalling, affirmations and meditation – very simple, but deeply powerful and empowering. I incorporate it in my 6 month membership program ‘Be healthy, fit and slim’ because I believe that health is the priority and self-care and emotional health are key to that. Remember, if you support your body, it can then support you in the ups and downs of life.
Any questions, please feel free to to pop into my facebook group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips – I’m always happy to help.
Last week I spoke to so many Mums who were being really harsh on themselves, that I wanted to chat to you about being more accepting of who you are – it’s certainly something I’ve had to do over the past year.
Some big news for me – and why it’s OK if your progress is slow!
Last weekend I made a huge breakthrough in my fitness, and managed something I never thought I’d be able to do again frankly.
I’m just so chuffed, so I wanted to encourage any of you who are judging your progress in health, fitness, emotional health, finances or business to just keep going. It doesn’t matter if our progress is slow. For me it’s not an option to not be healthier than ever before – so really when I’m 90 looking back, I won’t care that it took me a couple of extra years. The same goes for anything.
I’ve managed it by tuning into my body, so that I could work out when to push and when to pull back, and what it would love to do. Which leads me onto ….
Embrace who you are
Stop telling yourself that there is something about you that is wrong.
It won’t help to try to ignore or cut that part of you off and guilt just creates a tonne of brain noise, that means you can’t find a way to make a new choice or work around it.
Instead work with it:
– So maybe you are limited physically and have to pace like me – but perhaps that is just opening up your eyes to new ways of being, like doing yoga instead of marathon running? My progress has been unbelievably slow, but to be able to run, for however short a time was something I never thought I’d be able to do!
– Perhaps you have anxiety – to be honest, you might always be that kind of person, so the coping mechanisms that you put in place right now, you will always need. Like going to an exercise class to physically move the anxiety out of your body or have quiet time regularly – whatever it is, that’s OK.
– Perhaps there are things in your past that make you less sure of yourself – that’s fine, you might just need a constant friend or coach for a while to help build you back up. Know yourself and accept it – find a way to do it.
– Perhaps you’ve had depression – that doesn’t make you weak or wrong you know, it’s just an experience and part of who you are. So the fact that you might need certain things to keep you going or to avoid certain scenarios for self care is fine.
– Perhaps you are overweight? Doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful! Doesn’t mean you aren’t an amazing person! You could even be very fit! Feeling guilty about it, will just make listening to your body and what’s going on harder. Losing weight is not about cutting out the person who loves food, it’s just about persuading them to love a slightly different type and maybe a little less. It’s not about removing all the pleasure in your life (not my way anyway!), because that’s not sustainable. It’s about becoming MORE of who you are, not less.
I’m not saying we can’t make a choice to change some of our habits.
But it’s about working WITH who you are, not trying to force yourself to be someone different – your neighbour, or that other Mum who ‘seems’ to have her shit together, or that business woman who gives the impression she is more successful than you, or your friend who is skinnier than you.
Anyone who joins any of my programs will become MORE of who they are in their hearts and learn to adapt what I teach them to suit them perfectly. Wether it’s my mastermind groups, or law of attraction courses or my 6 month membership to lose weight – it’s all about empowering you to be able to love yourself more and take over the reigns in your own life.
Just wanted to let you all know that you are perfect and don’t try to be anyone else ?
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For anyone looking to lose weight, the doors to my 6 month membership program ‘Be healthy, fit and slim’ are now open and there are 2 great limited number offers:
1) Join with a friend ???and share the bill, making it only £7.50 a week! I love accountability – so this will give you a big accountability boost!
2) Join on your own ??? and get 1 month’s free Deluxe membership upgrade for only £15 per week – so that you have daily text and voice access to me and a 1to1 to boost your start.
I’ve updated my website to include videos that go into LOADS of depth about the program, you even get to see inside the content: https://mummywhisperer.com/be-healthy-course/
(But message me before booking, for special links to purchase the offers)
If you’d like to get a feel for how I work, join my group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips and check out the 3 day [reboot] detox – it’s great for giving you a chance to stop and rethink some of your habits (and boosting your weight loss if you need it).
