#ProjectSeptemberUpgrade – Taking steps towards your dream life

So September is nearly upon us – this is a wonderful time for new year resolutions, as we have started school in September for so many years, that it is almost written in our DNA that it’s time to ‘move up’.

Here is my facebook live giving you tips on how to upgrade your life, and there is a quick summary below for you as well.

One of the important parts of the Law of Attraction that people often forget whilst visualising ferrari’s is to ACT.  What’s often just as important is to start ‘acting as if’.  So in your new dream life with the amazing relationship or better financial set up or wonderful health, how would you be acting?  I’m not saying to start spending money now that you don’t have.  But rich people tend to manage and budget their money well (those that keep it anyway).  People in happy relationships tend to have a good relationship with themselves.  And so on …

Now I often talk about ‘upgrading’ your life for example your knicker drawer.  But recently I had a revelation when someone asked me to look at what I was ‘tolerating’ in my life and ‘what was not ok’!  Why was this so different?  Because I have a tendency to avoid conflict and ignore what I’m scared of.

When I bravely started to make my list (50-200 is recommended) – which is very long having juggled a business, young kids and an illness for so long – I started to feel a big shift.

There are 3 types of things:
1) The simple ones you can start to get going on quickly.
2) The ones that cost time and money that need to be planned and budgeted for.
3) The ones that involve other people – that can feel heavy to organise and sort out.

Once I started looking at (1); which involved an adaptor plug, new dish brush etc, I suddenly found that a huge (3) happened effortlessly and didn’t cost anywhere near as much of (2) as I expected.  There is LOADs of positive change happening.

Now originally I stared on this route because I am up for an award (subtle plug!) and realised that I needed to get all my ducks in a row – hence photos, new website, clarity on my strategy & plans etc.  It’s been a big journey for me and an even bigger one now that I’m looking more deeply at what I was ignoring.

So please do come and join in!
Like my facebook page and join my free facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the mummywhisperer‘ for tips, photos and ideas all the away through September.  There will be a free ‘Upgrade your money story’ course as well.

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Introduction to the Law of Attraction and how it works for Mums

As you know I’m passionate about the Law of Attraction.  I feel it is empowering for us Mums.

We can so often feel as though our lives are restricted.  Our timetable is set by the kids, there are a lot of financial needs, and relationships can become trickier.

Since going more deeply into this simple Law, I have been able to use it to lift myself out of a downward stress spiral, tackle challenges with the kids, and apply it to my health and business.

Here is a quick video introduction where I explain more deeply what it is and why it has helped me.

Put simply the Law is that:

Thought + Emotion + Action => Our Reality

Psychologically you can see how despite their best intentions, the way that a person thinks and behaves affects their whole life.

But the LOA is more than that.  It is saying that our vibration is also key to the people and circumstances that we attract.  This is the key to more dramatic changes in our lives and creating long lasting dream lives.

To Learn More

To learn more about the LOA I recommend liking my facebook page (set notifications to first, so that you don’t miss posts) and join my free facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the Mummywhisperer’.  Also watch ‘The Secret’ – which is often free on youtube – but remember that just focusing on a Ferrari is not getting you a Ferrari, there is more to it.

Remember, one of the keys to improving the quality of our lives is to love ourselves more.  My FREE 6 day email course is still available to subscribe to, until Friday 20th April.  Click here to receive it into your inbox and be added on my newsletter email list.

If you have already heard of the LOA, and want to apply it to a difficult challenge you are facing or a goal that you have struggled to achieve.  Then strongly consider my ‘Happier Mums Use The Law Of Attraction‘ 6 week online course.  It is ‘evergreen’, so once in, you get constant access to the material and get to reattend whenever I rerun it.  There are 3 FREE Goal clarity sessions on offer to the first people who sign up (worth £60) and doors close on Saturday 21st April.

I’m running a FREE masterclass on the LOA on Thursday 19th April at 8pm.  (I am not running it as a facebook live, you need to register).  If you have struggled with the LOA, this is for you.  You may also then be interested in getting my 6 week ‘Happier mums’ course for free, plus a free clarity call and signing up for my 6 month mastermind group ‘Manifesting Mums‘, where I can support you more in achieving your goals (if you are interested in this, we have a free exploration call to check that it is right for you).

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Any questions, just ask!

** Remember: You Deserve Your Dream Life **

The key to a happy, healthy life: Love yourself more

A few months ago I ran a free course in my facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the mummywhisperer‘ on how to love yourself more.  I’ve turned it into an easy to use and keep 6 day free email course, which you can subscribe to before Friday 20th April!

It’s simple, powerful and easy to fit into your life as a mum.  Plus it will make a huge difference, because being kinder to yourself and learning to love yourself more is the key to a happy, healthy and wealthy life.

Check out my video explaining it here and subscribe <HERE>.  Please share if you know anyone who needs to be kinder to themselves or appreciate themselves more.

Why Business is Spiritual and 10 Tips to finding clients on facebook!

So I know some wonderful women running their own businesses, but for some reason they are deeply intimidated by the words: Business.  Marketing.  Sales.  Finance.  Money.

I’m in here to tell you that business is a deeply spiritual business!

Money isn’t bad, it’s just a way of performing a transaction.  It magnifies who you are, yes.  But it’s not bad.  If you are worried about money, it’s unlikely to turn you into a monster!

Business isn’t bad either.  Please don’t judge those people who have become cynical, money grabbing and cut throat – until you are there, it’s difficult to understand how difficult it can be out there.  My last 5 years has been deeply shocking, and it’s taken a lot to keep my heart clear and not just give in to their kind of behaviour.

Marketing is just letting people know you are available.

Sales is just getting to know people and helping them to make the right choice.

Customer service is about you learning to manage your boundaries.

It’s all about personal development!

Have a look at my video below where I talk about my experiences and why business is really spiritual:

 

One of the things I’ve noticed is that many small businesses or self-employed people don’t make sure that their clients can find them.  So here are a list of things you can do, which are really simple:

  1. If you know nothing about facebook, please read this post
  2. Make sure you link your website and facebook page to your about page of your PERSONAL profile
  3. Make sure that the website and facebook page on your personal profile are set to be seen by everyone/public in your privacy settings
  4. Share your business page sporadically (not irritatingly) on your personal profile, so that your friends see what you are doing and can support you.
  5. Make sure your business page has all the most relevant information set up:
    1. About information and story (more than 1 line!)
    2. Include your website if you have one
    3. Services
    4. Shop (if you have products to sell)
    5. Go into your page settings and turn off anything you don’t need e.g. for me community and shop
  6. Link your groups to your facebook page so people can find them easily
  7. Use your name/business name in your facebook groups and name them so it’s obvious what is going on in them
  8. Use offers – they show up in a special place people scroll through
  9. Use events – they also show up in notifications
  10. Add a newsletter subscription if you have one

Once you’ve got the basics set up and you have started to be comfortable, then I recommend finding someone to help.  I’m not at the stage where I want to pay someone to do my social media for me, so instead I’ve joined a membership group where Inga Deksne keeps us up to date and encourages us in our strategies.  If you are older and really, really befuddled by all this, then Lisa Nichols would be ideal to hold your hand more.

 

Facebook – beginners information for your business

I’m still seeing it constantly – small business owners, struggling to know the basics of Facebook.  So here are the things that you MUST know to get started.  From here, just take it steady and slow – you can’t learn it all in 5 minutes, just do it bit by bit.

Profile

Your profile is your PERSONAL page.

Facebook doesn’t like you having a fake one for your business, as that is a way around it’s rules.  You can create a new profile that is more business orientated, but why bother honestly?  If you’ve been ‘misbehaving’ on Facebook, stop, because it will affect your business.  Nothing on social media is secret!  You can change the privacy of each post, but I don’t have time for that.

Some people don’t like to show anything about their business to their friends.  Why?  Friends aren’t as supportive sometimes as you might like them to be.  But if they have a choice of using another company or you, wouldn’t it be better if they use you?

I’m shocked how many business owners haven’t posted anything on their timeline about their business.

But, be discerning – don’t over do it either, otherwise people will get bored and tune out or unfollow you.

Be careful to set your privacy settings.  I only share my information with friends, but my profile is public.  See the picture below for the location of the privacy settings.

Page

This is your business page.  It is where you post stuff about your business and go live.  Then you share it to your profile or group if relevant.

You can invite friends to like your page – I do this about once every 6 months.

You can create events on your page – this is helpful if you run courses or do workshops.

Create a pinned post at the top of your page, with your key piece of information or event.  For example when I’m running a free course, the information will be pinned there, so that people don’t get confused when seeing lots of other posts about it without the join up info.

Fill in the about information – check contact details, location and description.  Include everything you do – otherwise they may never find out.

 

Group

A group is a community, where you can interact with your clients more.  This may or may not be relevant to your business to create.  For instance, it might not be useful for a clothes shop, but would be for a coach.

Create a post with the ‘rules’ for how your group will run and pin it, so that it is always displayed at the top of the group.  E.g. can other people post about their business?

Add a description about yourself and the group, so that people who join know what it is about – so many people don’t do this and lose community members because of it.

Set the privacy settings – normally to ‘closed’ – so that no one outside can see what is written in there.

Link it to your page.

Do NOT add people into your group without asking them – this really upsets them.

Do NOT tag everyone in the group overtime you post – this really upsets them!

Some people choose particular days or times of the day to interact in their groups and reply to comments, as otherwise it can be overwhelming to reply straight away to loads of comments through out the day.

Other Groups

Read the description.  Read the pinned post.  Follow the rules.

Interact with others and be helpful before you post your stuff.

Don’t put an ‘F’ or ‘.’ as a comment, so that you can see other peoples comments.  Instead click on the 3 dots in the top right hand corner and ‘Turn on notifications for the post’ (see photo above).

Please check the files for information that has been created especially for you – if you are in a group for information, the most likely thing is that FAQ’s have been written up.

When asking a question go to the [search] function first and see if it has already been asked.  How much effort do you think someone will put into asking your about the latest lash product for instance, if someone else asked the same 3hrs earlier?

Be polite – say please and thank you.

Don’t read it if you don’t want to.

STEP AWAY – you are being judged on your behaviour in a group, there is no need to argue or convince other people that you are right.

Nothing is ever completely private or safe – don’t post if there would be a problem if someone copied your post and shared it elsewhere.  There are nasty people on Facebook who will do that.  Don’t be one of those people!

Personal Friends

As I’m running a business I’m careful on Facebook.  If someone is annoying I ‘unfollow’ them.  I hardly ever unfriend or block.  I only unfriend when I find people have been basically watching me for a year, but never interacted.

Time Line

Your timeline is your personal updates on what is going on in facebook land.  First come your memories from before, then the page updates from any pages that you set notifications to ‘first’.  Then there will be updates from friends.  NOT all friends – just the ones you’ve been interacting with recently.

Facebook Adverts

It is possible to get people to like your page and set notifications to first so they always see your posts.  But generally other wise you will only reach a certain number of people with your page.

Inevitably you will need to do an advert.  The easiest thing is to ‘Boost’ your post.  But eventually you will find better results from the ‘Ads Manager’ (see below, and get proper advice on how to do this).

Generally

The most important thing is to remember, that just because it’s online doesn’t mean you don’t have to work at creating relationships.  Think of your posts on social media as a conversation – are you being boring?  Are you only posting about what you want (more clients), or are you also sharing information, being interesting and being helpful with no agenda?

If you are selling a network marketing product, please don’t use the technique of being vague about what you do and not mentioning the company.  It is unwise, only attracts people who don’t know what you are doing (so are a bit daft), and makes you look bad.  The rest of us do know what you are trying to do!

Hacks & Viruses

It’s unwise to get involved in chain messages or chain Facebook posts – they just fill up timelines with repetition and are like a virus because they take up space.

It’s unlikely the message saying ‘THIS IS TRUE’, or asking you to share and copy to your timeline to warn everyone about something catastrophic is real.  Check Snopes.com for updates on hoaxes.

Don’t click on links from people you don’t know.

Don’t add a Facebook friend again when you are already friends with them – it’s likely not them.

The cute girl/soldier who just added you, who has no mutual friends to you, is likely not a real person.

To Learn More

Things change constantly in Facebook land and always will.  We never like their updates, and it can be a pain to keep up, but they like to keep improving.  They are a business, it is not bad that they need to make money.

I recommend Inge Deksne – she has a great membership program where you pay monthly.  She supports you to get onto social media more, especially Facebook, and runs online ‘cafe’s’ where you can ask questions.  She can do all the research for you and keep up to date – there is a lot to it, and she will save you time, effort and tears.

How Journalling Helped Me Turn My Year Around

I have become a HUGE fan of journalling this year!  I started in June and it has really helped me to reduce stress, improve my Lyme disease, enjoy being with the kids more and make important business changes.

Come and join me in my Facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the mummy whisperer’ for more regular tips and my free ‘Time for Change’ course.

Here is a quick video I did about to encourage you to use it this year if you need to make a big change:

Why?

Writing stuff down is pretty magic.  It empties the mind of stresses and often helps discover a solution more easily.

It gives perspective on a problem and helps to see if things are not as bad as you think.  Or even highlights when something is worse and you’ve been letting it go on to long.

The notes help me really integrate healing/personal development I do and make sure I learn new stuff fully.

By doing a 3 monthly review I discover that I tend to have achieved much more than I thought (I tend to be quite hard on myself), and it helps me make a change to problems in the next 3 months.

How it works

As you can see, my journal is really simple.

I started with one page per day, but it’s more like 2-4 pages per day now.  The key things that have helped me are:

At the beginning I make a note of what I want to:

  1. Monitor – this tends to be things I forget to do that are good for me, like dog walking.
  2. Treatment routine – my current treatment routine, so that I can monitor what does and doesn’t work.
  3. What I want to achieve over the next 3 months
    1. at home
    2. for the Mummy Whisperer
    3. and my salon.

At the end I review the 3 months (or year if it’s December) and do a summary of what happened and then review what did and didn’t work.  This will give me my focus for the next 3 months.

For each day I will highlight in the margin important things that happened e.g going somewhere special with the kids or something happening at work, and some options that help me track my health e.g. exercise.

Most days I’ll make notes from a meditation, do some personal development or read something that I want to make notes on.  Those notes go on the plain pages, so that I can also track when I was studying different things.  At the end of the 3 months I particularly review these, as I find it helps make sure I’ve really learnt/integrated new info.

I use a gold highlighter to underline important pages that I want to be able to find again, and sometimes little labels if it’s notes I need for work.  I LOVE STATIONARY!

I’m going to enhance my notes section for this year and use it for To do’s, memories and doodles of things I want to create/manifest in my life.  So it’s going to be more colourful, hence definitely needing more stationary 😉

 

If you are looking to make a change and aren’t sure where to start, I can’t recommend journalling enough.  It doesn’t have to be complicated, a plain notebook is perfect, just add a margin to highlight key points and put the date in.

Let me know what you think and remember to come into my Facebook group for helpful online courses.

 

Look after yourself every day!

I’ve been chatting to lots of mums recently about taking care of ourselves.  Often they’ll say something like ‘oh yes, I always go to Zumba/Yoga’ every week.  One thing!

Here’s my vlog about why we need to do a little something for ourselves every day.  Why our vibe is so important and why WE are so important – we are the heart of the family and the heart of the community.  If you don’t take care of yourself and think you are important, why will anyone else respect you?

Come and join my Facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the Mummy Whisperer‘ and I’m going to post every Sun night/Mon morning with a thread that we can use to be accountable to do something for ourselves every day.

 

Reciprocity

I can’t pronounce the word, but I’m passionate about creating reciprocal relationships.  Together we are so much stronger.

Watch my video below and let me know what you think – do you have businesses who support yours, or do you find that many will take the help that you give and then give nothing back in return?

 

 

There are some easy tips as well:

  • Like their page.
  • Set notifications to first so that you don’t miss anything.
  • When they do a Facebook live, click the button to be notified when they go live, so you don’t miss anything.
  • When relevant share to your clients or friends – it can be really helpful for their stats and for your clients, and is more interesting than constant promotional posts.
  • Don’t discount, add value and combine services with another business

For any small business looking for social media support and advice, with an intuitive edge, then check out Inga Deksne on Facebook.  I’m part of one of her subscription groups, and it’s really helpful to keep me up to date and kick me into action!

Oh and remember to come and join my Facebook group ‘Business with a heart’!

Mid-Year Review And Plans for rest of 2017

A confess – I’ve been beating myself up loads for not quite achieving what I had wanted to achieve by now.  Are you in the same place?

Then please watch my video and do the exercise I mention below ….

 

 

  1. Sit down for 20-30mins and think about this year.
  2. Look through your diaries/schedules to remind yourself what happened
  3. What have you achieved in work, health and life?
  4. Make a good long list.  Don’t focus on what you didn’t achieve, focus on what you did manage.
  5. The more you write, the more it will flow
  6. Then take a couple of deep breaths, now that you are feeling more grateful to yourself and ask yourself….
  7. If there was only 1 more thing that you could achieve by the end of the year, what would your heart love you to do?
  8. If you could manage 2 more things what would they be?

 

Let me know below what you discover – it could be really surprising!

5 Top Tips For A Foggy Brain

I’ve just started a theme called #CelebrationFriday in my Facebook group ‘Create your dream life With The Mummywhisperer‘ – a way of focussing on what we can be grateful for, rather than how exhausted we feel!

Today I’m celebrating making a huge breakthrough!  Check out my video where I explain what for me is a massive improvement in my cognitive abilities.

The damage the Lyme Disease did to my brain was way worse than ‘Mummy Brain’ or ‘Fibro Fog’ had ever been – and it was a huge dent to my pride to literally not be able to do things I used to be able to do (Accounting, Project management, remembering more than 1/2 a page of to do’s etc).  So I’m really chuffed to have been able to turn back the tide.

My 5 tips are:

1) Supplements (I take Omega oils)

2) Far Infrared – check out my review 1 and review 2 on how our brain needs oxygen &a circulation

3) Positive thinking and EFT (Emotional Freedom technique) – to get out of my own way and not make matters worse (If you are interested Melanie Bundock is my go to person for EFT)

4) Tap dancing – I’m pretty awful!  But the timing and sound of the tapping is definitely helpful and I’m very grateful to Excel Performing Arts for starting up their Adult classes (and being patient!).

5) Playing the Piano – I’d forgotten EVERYTHING – but slowly and surely I’m getting better and remembering more than just chopsticks!

I hope this gives you a feeling of light at the end of the tunnel if you are struggling with similar problems!

(If you need some help with issues like this, I do a small number of Lifestyle coaching and healing sessions each week, and I’d be happy to help).