How much should you spend on training or personal development?

I have so many small businesses approach me who are not managing to make enough profit from their business, or even any kind of profit at all, that one of the first tips I have for them is cost management.

It’s harsh, but fair to say that if you haven’t earned it yet, then you shouldn’t spend it – not if you would love a successful business in future.  It doesn’t just affect the bottom line, it also affects the energetics of the business.

Then it’s important to analyse your spending habits in the business and make sure that the percentage spent on each area is reasonable – plus that where possible it actually helps to move the business forwards, so there is some form of saving or earning from it.

This can be really tough when you are surrounded by adverts on social media all day long telling you that you NEED this new shiny course – they have the strategy that will sort everything for you and you won’t be able to succeed without it!  Especially if you are a lover of learning new stuff!!

So here are my tips for how much to control your training or personal development costs (from a recovering addict for personal development courses and books!).


This is a slightly ironic tip for 2 reasons … My biggest vice is spending stuff on learning things – I’ve literally had to hand cuff myself to stop this addiction to new sparkly things to learn.

Plus one of my services is courses for small businesses and I’m also back doing consulting in the corporate market!

But even so, I firmly believe that us small business owners need to keep a strict tab on how much we spend – my new goal is to not spend more than 10% on training or personal development.  If I want to do an expensive course/program, then I will need to earn more in order to do it.  Plus I now keep tabs on those no-brainer priced memberships programs, as I had built up a large number of them and it all adds up.

When I do invest in anything now, I do expect a palpable return or saving.  Whilst spiritual development is important, It’s not ok for a course/program for businesses to not be built around either saving you money or making you money.

Otherwise what it does is add to the pressure of making more money – and most small businesses already have enough of that!  I think it’s reasonable to expect 5-10x your investment – that’s certainly what I aim to deliver or more!

Plus to help with new shiny object syndrome, I sit for a moment and think ‘Is this course a 100% Yes course?’ or am I interested because I’m worried about missing out or have fear about something?  For me to spend my time on it, even if it is FREE, it needs to be 100% something I want to do.

Hope that tip helps, let me know what you think?

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If your business needs a boost, I’ve got just the thing for you (yes, ironically I am now mentioning purchasing a course LOL!) – My Business Booster program!

Plus if you are watching this before the end of Nov 2019, it’s FREE for one more time starting on Fri 15th!  But even after that, it’s really affordable, as it’s aimed at businesses that need a boost or are just starting out.  Plus once you are in, you can re-attend any time (it will run 4-6 times a year).

You’ll get both a practical and energetic boost for your business and a health check to make sure there are no gaps that will cause you trouble.

The last group loved it so much, they are all attending again – check out their testimonials and more information here:

Business Booster

I really love this course, so I hope that it feels like a ‘100% Yes’ for you and I see you in there!

Weight loss is easy – stop making it so hard!

Ok, so to be Kim Kardashian or JLo might take some effort, but honestly, it’s not complicated or hard work to feel healthier and fitter – even if that means losing weight.

Even if you have struggled with losing weight in the past!

Even if you have tried every diet under the sun!

Even if you are older or struggling with a health condition!

Please watch this video on what it is that you actually need and how easy it is ….

Yes, you do need to make a firm decision that this is what you want.

And it might change your personality and priorities a bit.

And it might take a little while for that ‘new you’ to get completely locked in.

But your body has all the wisdom you need to be able to do it and it can guide you to the right combination of nutrition and exercise that will work for you and remind you to drink more water.

It’s not about ‘hard work’, it’s about feeling amazing in your body and listening to what nurtures it and makes it feel wonderful – it’s just a matter of following your intuition and pleasure!

If you’d like help to get healthier, fitter and slimmer and know more about my ‘Body Reboot’ program click here.  But if not, don’t worry – I wish you well and would like to remind you that you really deserve to feel healthier and fitter, plus it’s in everyone’s best interests that you DO take care of yourself <3

Why Complaining, Bitching & Blaming won’t get you anywhere

This is part of my ‘Magic Switch’ course, which you can access for free in my facebook group ‘#MUMMYWHISPERER Tips’ – it’s aim is to help you literally wave a Magic Wand on your life!

It’s a bit of a tough talk to start off the course – but it WILL help you, and that’s what matters to me ….

When life is tough, often the people around us are stressed as well and the atmosphere becomes yucky (technical term!). So this is one you might want to share with the rest of the family!

Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I’d like you to spend the next 2 weeks making a concerted effort to do the following. Only because it will make you feel better, not because you are <insert whatever judgemental term you think I’m thinking>:

1) No Complaining:
I know life is tough, and certainly chat to a friend about it. But generally, try to hold off about complaining about your health, lack of weight loss, financial troubles, job etc.
If someone asks, don’t say ‘Fine’ – that unmistakable fake answer us British give. But say something like ‘Up and down’ or ‘On the up’ or ‘Getting easier’.

2) No Bitching:
I’m not suggesting you are a bitch. But when we are stressed it can be easy to end up complaining about people.
Yes, if you have a situation with someone, you might want to chat it over with a friend. But keep it factual, and stay away from guessing their motivations etc.

3) No Blame:
I’m not talking about big issues and saying people shouldn’t take responsibility for their actions. Just that sometimes finger pointing in the family doesn’t get us anywhere. Sometimes, we have to have reasonable expectations of our kids/partners and where they are at. Sometimes there isn’t anyone to blame, however much we would like there to be, because it would explain why it happened.
Shit happens.
Kids are kid.
Teenagers are sometimes!
Puppies chew sofas (well mine did last week – ugh!)
None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.

 

Here is a video to go into more depth about why complaining about life, bitching about other people and always trying to find someone or something to blame, won’t help you:

 

The aim is to reduce the negative, spiky energy around you – so we can start to add a lighter one.  I promise it will help!

Why it’s important to look after yourself in the summer holidays!

Don’t make the mistake of putting yourself last this summer!

It’s so easy to do – and I have totally been there.

But come September there are loads of mums who have put their health, happiness and businesses on hold and end up feeling frazzled, disgruntled and sad at the lack of happy memories.

Don’t get me wrong, spending great fun times with the kids this summer, is something I am massively looking forward to!  I’m planning on creating a huge number of happy memories.

But not at the cost of my health, fitness and business.

No I’m not going to do work that is unnecessary.  But neither am I planning on losing my momentum.  Plus my health is so much better, I have bit fitness goals for this summer!

Watch this video to encourage yourself and help you think through what is important to you this summer!

Plus there are a few options/offers available to you ….

– Have a few pounds to lose? – QUICK – join my facebook  group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips and you can still get access to my [Reboot] 3 day detox program.  Sorry, if you are reading this after July 23rd – it’s no longer free!  But it is available to buy here:
https://mummywhisperer.com/rebootdetox/

– Have some big health, fitness and weight loss goals?  QUICK – I am just reopening the doors to my ‘Be Healthy, fit & slim for life program’.  If you check out this page, there is more information on the program and a look inside.
https://mummywhisperer.com/be-healthy-course/

Plus here is a video explaining exactly why you would want to work with me (or not, as the case may be!).

– Have a business that needs a kickstart or boost? – message me – I have a new program about to start, with an amazing offer, that makes the summer holiday lull no problem from a time and financial perspective – but when I open the doors on it, it will be very limited, so make sure you don’t miss out!

– Remember there is my FREE ‘Magic Switch’ course in my facebook group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips – this will definitely help keep you sane when the kids go feral LOL!

Very big hugs and remember that you deserve to have a wonderful summer holidays AND be happy AND be healthy AND have a successful business!

Mental Health Awareness week – how I handle the depression that comes with Lyme disease and Fibromyalgia

What an amazingly inspiring and informative week this #MentalHealthAwareness week is!

I thought I would share how I handle the crushing depression, general anxiety and crippling brain fog that I get (or used to get) with my Lyme Disease and Fibromyalgia.

Watch this video for a much more detailed description of what it feels like and how I handle it, but here is a quick summary ….

  • Crushing depression – is Vitamin B – get your Dr to check your vitamin and minerals if yours feels like the one I describe.
  • Anxiety – get moving – my local beginners dance class is key to handling this
  • Brain fog – Omega 3, 6 & 9 oils and Circulation are key to improving this.  Plus tap dancing or playing the piano to improve the synapses in my brain.

But most of all it’s about accepting who I am and working with it, instead of against myself – I am who I am, and that is someone who will always need to look after myself, even once I am symptom free.

I have created my own system to deal with the ups and downs of life called ‘Heal your life’ which incorporates journalling, affirmations and meditation – very simple, but deeply powerful and empowering.  I incorporate it in my 6 month membership program ‘Be healthy, fit and slim’ because I believe that health is the priority and self-care and emotional health are key to that.  Remember, if you support your body, it can then support you in the ups and downs of life.

Any questions, please feel free to to pop into my facebook group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips – I’m always happy to help.

Accept who you are and the pace of change that suits you!

Last week I spoke to so many Mums who were being really harsh on themselves, that I wanted to chat to you about being more accepting of who you are – it’s certainly something I’ve had to do over the past year.

Some big news for me – and why it’s OK if your progress is slow!

Last weekend I made a huge breakthrough in my fitness, and managed something I never thought I’d be able to do again frankly.

I’m just so chuffed, so I wanted to encourage any of you who are judging your progress in health, fitness, emotional health, finances or business to just keep going.  It doesn’t matter if our progress is slow.  For me it’s not an option to not be healthier than ever before – so really when I’m 90 looking back, I won’t care that it took me a couple of extra years.  The same goes for anything.

I’ve managed it by tuning into my body, so that I could work out when to push and when to pull back, and what it would love to do.  Which leads me onto ….

Embrace who you are

Stop telling yourself that there is something about you that is wrong.

It won’t help to try to ignore or cut that part of you off and guilt just creates a tonne of brain noise, that means you can’t find a way to make a new choice or work around it.

Instead work with it:

– So maybe you are limited physically and have to pace like me – but perhaps that is just opening up your eyes to new ways of being, like doing yoga instead of marathon running? My progress has been unbelievably slow, but to be able to run, for however short a time was something I never thought I’d be able to do!

– Perhaps you have anxiety – to be honest, you might always be that kind of person, so the coping mechanisms that you put in place right now, you will always need. Like going to an exercise class to physically move the anxiety out of your body or have quiet time regularly – whatever it is, that’s OK.

– Perhaps there are things in your past that make you less sure of yourself – that’s fine, you might just need a constant friend or coach for a while to help build you back up. Know yourself and accept it – find a way to do it.

– Perhaps you’ve had depression – that doesn’t make you weak or wrong you know, it’s just an experience and part of who you are. So the fact that you might need certain things to keep you going or to avoid certain scenarios for self care is fine.

– Perhaps you are overweight? Doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful! Doesn’t mean you aren’t an amazing person! You could even be very fit! Feeling guilty about it, will just make listening to your body and what’s going on harder. Losing weight is not about cutting out the person who loves food, it’s just about persuading them to love a slightly different type and maybe a little less. It’s not about removing all the pleasure in your life (not my way anyway!), because that’s not sustainable. It’s about becoming MORE of who you are, not less.

I’m not saying we can’t make a choice to change some of our habits.

But it’s about working WITH who you are, not trying to force yourself to be someone different – your neighbour, or that other Mum who ‘seems’ to have her shit together, or that business woman who gives the impression she is more successful than you, or your friend who is skinnier than you.

Anyone who joins any of my programs will become MORE of who they are in their hearts and learn to adapt what I teach them to suit them perfectly. Wether it’s my mastermind groups, or law of attraction courses or my 6 month membership to lose weight – it’s all about empowering you to be able to love yourself more and take over the reigns in your own life.

Just wanted to let you all know that you are perfect and don’t try to be anyone else ?

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For anyone looking to lose weight, the doors to my 6 month membership program ‘Be healthy, fit and slim’ are now open and there are 2 great limited number offers:

1) Join with a friend ???and share the bill, making it only £7.50 a week! I love accountability – so this will give you a big accountability boost!

2) Join on your own ??? and get 1 month’s free Deluxe membership upgrade for only £15 per week – so that you have daily text and voice access to me and a 1to1 to boost your start.

I’ve updated my website to include videos that go into LOADS of depth about the program, you even get to see inside the content:
https://mummywhisperer.com/be-healthy-course/
(But message me before booking, for special links to purchase the offers)

If you’d like to get a feel for how I work, join my group #MUMMYWHISPERER Tips and check out the 3 day [reboot] detox – it’s great for giving you a chance to stop and rethink some of your habits (and boosting your weight loss if you need it).

Any questions just message, I’m happy to answer.

Time For Change

 

So how are you feeling – is life going well, or are you looking for some changes this year?  If so, great – this year is going to be a good year for successful changes, I can feel it in my bones!

But there are a few things that you can do to make sure that you set the best goals and keep focussed on them during the year.  So I’ve created a free 8 day course for you to download to get you started with a bang!

It daily tips covering 3 areas:

Decluttering – because we need to get rid of the old to bring in the new
Coaching – to help you set great goals that means something to you
Health – because our body is the engine that helps us achieve those goals!

There are also 2 meditations – one to help you let go and one to help boost your new intention.

And a bonus masterclass on why goals & resolutions often fail and how to use the Law of Attraction to increase your success.

To download the course, just pop to this page on my main site and subscribe and it will be sent to you by email automatically.

I recommend that you also join my free facebook group and keep in touch with how you are doing!

My dream this year is to consistently touch the lives of 20,000 mums and help lift them up, so that they feel better.

I’ll be focussing on improving my health (I am SO much better), my kids and the Mummy Whisperer – I’ve got tonnes of news to tell you!

Good luck and may all your dreams come true this year – because we all deserve for our dreams to come true!

 

 

#ProjectSeptemberUpgrade – Taking steps towards your dream life

So September is nearly upon us – this is a wonderful time for new year resolutions, as we have started school in September for so many years, that it is almost written in our DNA that it’s time to ‘move up’.

Here is my facebook live giving you tips on how to upgrade your life, and there is a quick summary below for you as well.

One of the important parts of the Law of Attraction that people often forget whilst visualising ferrari’s is to ACT.  What’s often just as important is to start ‘acting as if’.  So in your new dream life with the amazing relationship or better financial set up or wonderful health, how would you be acting?  I’m not saying to start spending money now that you don’t have.  But rich people tend to manage and budget their money well (those that keep it anyway).  People in happy relationships tend to have a good relationship with themselves.  And so on …

Now I often talk about ‘upgrading’ your life for example your knicker drawer.  But recently I had a revelation when someone asked me to look at what I was ‘tolerating’ in my life and ‘what was not ok’!  Why was this so different?  Because I have a tendency to avoid conflict and ignore what I’m scared of.

When I bravely started to make my list (50-200 is recommended) – which is very long having juggled a business, young kids and an illness for so long – I started to feel a big shift.

There are 3 types of things:
1) The simple ones you can start to get going on quickly.
2) The ones that cost time and money that need to be planned and budgeted for.
3) The ones that involve other people – that can feel heavy to organise and sort out.

Once I started looking at (1); which involved an adaptor plug, new dish brush etc, I suddenly found that a huge (3) happened effortlessly and didn’t cost anywhere near as much of (2) as I expected.  There is LOADs of positive change happening.

Now originally I stared on this route because I am up for an award (subtle plug!) and realised that I needed to get all my ducks in a row – hence photos, new website, clarity on my strategy & plans etc.  It’s been a big journey for me and an even bigger one now that I’m looking more deeply at what I was ignoring.

So please do come and join in!
Like my facebook page and join my free facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the mummywhisperer‘ for tips, photos and ideas all the away through September.  There will be a free ‘Upgrade your money story’ course as well.

Oooh and I’d love a vote, pretty please!  Just pop ‘MummyWhisperer’ in the box here and I’ll love you forever <3

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Introduction to the Law of Attraction and how it works for Mums

As you know I’m passionate about the Law of Attraction.  I feel it is empowering for us Mums.

We can so often feel as though our lives are restricted.  Our timetable is set by the kids, there are a lot of financial needs, and relationships can become trickier.

Since going more deeply into this simple Law, I have been able to use it to lift myself out of a downward stress spiral, tackle challenges with the kids, and apply it to my health and business.

Here is a quick video introduction where I explain more deeply what it is and why it has helped me.

Put simply the Law is that:

Thought + Emotion + Action => Our Reality

Psychologically you can see how despite their best intentions, the way that a person thinks and behaves affects their whole life.

But the LOA is more than that.  It is saying that our vibration is also key to the people and circumstances that we attract.  This is the key to more dramatic changes in our lives and creating long lasting dream lives.

To Learn More

To learn more about the LOA I recommend liking my facebook page (set notifications to first, so that you don’t miss posts) and join my free facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the Mummywhisperer’.  Also watch ‘The Secret’ – which is often free on youtube – but remember that just focusing on a Ferrari is not getting you a Ferrari, there is more to it.

Remember, one of the keys to improving the quality of our lives is to love ourselves more.  My FREE 6 day email course is still available to subscribe to, until Friday 20th April.  Click here to receive it into your inbox and be added on my newsletter email list.

If you have already heard of the LOA, and want to apply it to a difficult challenge you are facing or a goal that you have struggled to achieve.  Then strongly consider my ‘Happier Mums Use The Law Of Attraction‘ 6 week online course.  It is ‘evergreen’, so once in, you get constant access to the material and get to reattend whenever I rerun it.  There are 3 FREE Goal clarity sessions on offer to the first people who sign up (worth £60) and doors close on Saturday 21st April.

I’m running a FREE masterclass on the LOA on Thursday 19th April at 8pm.  (I am not running it as a facebook live, you need to register).  If you have struggled with the LOA, this is for you.  You may also then be interested in getting my 6 week ‘Happier mums’ course for free, plus a free clarity call and signing up for my 6 month mastermind group ‘Manifesting Mums‘, where I can support you more in achieving your goals (if you are interested in this, we have a free exploration call to check that it is right for you).

To Register for my free masterclass and be added to my newsletter, subscribe here

 

 

Any questions, just ask!

** Remember: You Deserve Your Dream Life **

The key to a happy, healthy life: Love yourself more

A few months ago I ran a free course in my facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the mummywhisperer‘ on how to love yourself more.  I’ve turned it into an easy to use and keep 6 day free email course, which you can subscribe to before Friday 20th April!

It’s simple, powerful and easy to fit into your life as a mum.  Plus it will make a huge difference, because being kinder to yourself and learning to love yourself more is the key to a happy, healthy and wealthy life.

Check out my video explaining it here and subscribe <HERE>.  Please share if you know anyone who needs to be kinder to themselves or appreciate themselves more.