The importance of encouraging our children to be their ‘own people’

This is my review of Chapter 4 of ‘How to Talk so kids listen’ about ‘encouraging autonomy’. This is an interesting chapter for me after Curly Headed Boy asked me a few months ago “when are you ever going to let me out on my own”.  As a 13yr old boy was killed on the crossing near school at Christmas […]

What on earth to do when increasing the discipline isn’t helping?

So I’m onto the ‘important’ chapter of ‘How to Talk So Kids Listen’, which is ‘Alternatives to punishment’. This is the chapter that got me interested, because as I said, Curly Headed Boy turning 7 has been tricky.  Initially we succumbed to the fear that we hadn’t been clear enough with him and he ‘should be learning to behave by […]

Tips on getting our kids to do what we want/need them to do

  So here are are onto Chapter 2 of ‘How to Talk so kids will listen’; ‘Engaging Cooperation’. Backstory: With a 7yo Curly Headed Boy and soon to be 3yo Little Dimples, life has become a little shouty of late and we were looking for some alternative options, as being stricter wasn’t cutting it.  So I decided to read, review […]

Do we have a bad habit of confusing our kids so they don’t know what they are feeling?

The first book in my long list I’m going to review is: ‘How to Talk so your kids will Listen and Listen to kids will talk‘ by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. To help me, I’m going to do an in depth review of each chapter, and then at the end of the 6-12 weeks it takes, I’ll write up […]

My Intuition Isn’t Quite Enough: A Seven Year Old Boy Is Too Tricky!

So Far …   For the last 7yrs since Curly Headed Boy arrived, I’ve been pretty much surviving on my intuition and dipping into the odd book for help every now and again for an adaptable tip. I had tended towards the trying to be as respectful and fair as possible, but when Little Dimples came along 3yrs ago, my […]