So what’s the idea?
- To strengthen the position of Mums in society.
- To encourage Mums to feel strong and confident in our differences
- To help them to appreciate that given different circumstances and different shoes, they might be different too
A ‘good mother’ is a mother who is herself, not trying to be someone else. Therefore we are all going to be different, with different types of families, different backgrounds and different priorities; just plain different. Difference is interesting. That’s the objective; for there to be a point to you, because you are a unique you; as Ralph Waldo Emerson (a 19th century philosopher) said “Envy is ignorance, Imitation is Suicide”. It’s ok to have a different opinion and you can still like/respect me whilst disagreeing with me. Plus, that if I’m sure of myself, I won’t be threatened by you having a different opinion. I won’t even need to try to convince you of it.
Mums are incredibly important to society, because we are where things start. At the moment we don’t have a strong standing in society, and I believe it’s time to change that. If we publicly have a go at each other and criticise each other (which is different from disagreeing respectfully), that we reduce our power and standing in society, plus waste time and energy. I’m not suggesting that we can never bitch about someone or sound off to a good mate, as getting it out can be helpful in gaining perspective. What I’m suggesting is to change what we do after that.
I believe that there is ‘hope for us’ as women, and we don’t have to accept the gender generalisation that a large group of women will always spend time having a go at each other. I think that we can learn to take a breath, have a cup of tea, and imagine standing in another woman’s shoes to find the common ground; and that by doing so we’ll get the insight to stop slagging each other off.
So here are the ideas for what to call the ‘revolution’. They’ve come from the first Mums already excited by the idea. Now we need a name, then a badge, then for some big communities to back the initiative. So what would you like to call it? The only ‘rule’ is that the name doesn’t point the finger at another community e.g. Dads or non-mums and that it focusses on what we want rather than what we don’t want; so ‘Mums without judgement’ actually uses words that we don’t want.
If you have a better option, feel free to add it in the comments, otherwise let me know which ones you prefer ….
1) Standing in other Mums shoes
2) Mums stand together
3) Mums in each others shoes
4) United Mums
5) Mums Different United
6) Mums United Different (shortens to Mud)
Which name is the most powerful, the most inspiring? Which one will people remember? Please let as many people know as you can, so that we can get as much feedback as possible.
UPDATE: Tag Line and Badge
After all the fabulous comments here and at BritMums, I’ve decided to definitely go for ‘Mums Stand Together’, I’m going to grab the twitter id’s and sites for that and ‘Moms Stand Together’ just incase we need that at some point.
But you guys are right – now I need a tag line! Plus it must take into account all the concerns – so it’s not about us all agreeing, or not debating, or all being the same. The main objectives are
1) to help a Mum step back for a moment and think about how she would feel if she stood in the other Mums shoes – hence reduce the in fighting
2) to help us have a stronger presence in society by standing together
Mums Standing Together, strong in our differences?
Also, I either need someone willing to do a swap for a header and badge (I can offer an hours coaching worth £130?) or a company to sponsor someone to do it for me – any ideas?