Question is, does that make me a big fat loser?
And therefore all the rest of the people who lost and all those who didn’t get to the finals are losers too?
Sensible people would point out that last year I won, and that I won the BiBs ‘Inspire’ blogging award earlier this year.
Mean people would point out that this means I WAS a success and am no more!
Philosophically I don’t believe that anyone is more successful than me or you. I believe that we are successful at what suits us most or what we need most, because that is where our focus and priorities go.
So it makes sense that the winner was the very gorgeous Fiona, who has a lovely holiday retreat for families down in cornwall where kids can meet the animals on the farm, because by winning it will help her family business and it will make sure that more families find out about this lovely place to go. She has shown a lot of focus to use her blog as an entertaining window into her world, and good on her.
I wanted to win to help me with launch or version 2 of my book and the paperback version. But due to delays I didn’t manage to hit the september deadline anyway. I remember one of my category last year saying ‘make sure you keep that award on your desk and make the most of it’; and I REALLY did. But this year I couldn’t have promised the same.
I have been feeling a bit of a failure recently as firstly with the general back pain I found myself slow and lethargic, and then as it became really painful I found myself properly depressed. I’ve been to an Osteo, Physio, acupuncturist, massage, improved my nutrition, coaching, and aqua aerobics, all with no success. Ironic as I used to be able fix backs worse than mine within 3 months when I first started as a healer years ago, so I’m getting very frustrated 6 months on. Add to that loss of childcare, problems with sorting nursery settles, putting on a bit of weight due to the bad back, a reduction in available sponsored posts, some friendship shifts and failing to juggle many balls at all and I was definitely not looking ‘successful’ to me.
However, I did get to review a holiday in the summer and two festivals, I do have my lovely new monthly slot as a ‘lifestyle correspondent’ for Radio Verulam, I got my V2 of my book edited this time and with a few days of final changes it is ready for the techie bit of publishing, and I have a couple of lovely clients sticking with my lack of availability. Curly Headed Boy seems settled in the new school despite a slight glitch at the beginning on Yr2, and in a few weeks Little Dimples will hopefully be running into nursery happily. Oh and the pills from the doctor have reduced the pain. Plus I got to hug Myleene Klass at the awards ceremony and she is really sweet.
Statistically speaking if you can read and write in this country, you are already in the top 84% of the country. There were 3000 blogs nominated for the MAD Blog Awards (there are over 4000 in the Tots100) and only 75 finalists, which would put me in the top 2.5% of the blogs. I bet the bloggers that didn’t get into the top 2.5% are much better at cooking, baking, sewing, crafting and a multitude of things than I am. I also bet that they wouldn’t give up those things just to be in the top 2.5%.
There are so many ways to measure ‘success’, and often we ignore the things that come easy to us. For instance a friend of mine considers me a massive success because I had two kids after being told I was ‘barren’ at 19. She pointed out to me that it wasn’t just the doctor making a mistake, but that I had put a lot of effort into healing my body, and just because it wasn’t with the specific aim of having kids, doesn’t make it any less of a success. I wouldn’t be without them, in order to be more financially successful.
For some Mums, just getting to London and managing the fear of walking into a room full of opinionated parent bloggers shows massive success. Plus if they aren’t currently cripppled with wicked back pain then they are leaps and bounds ahead of me!
So do you see what I mean?
When looking at success you need to look at physical health, friendships, kids, family, relationships, financial security, job or job choices, intelligence, mental health, ability to fight back from life’s knocks and sometimes just the ability to get through the day. Sometimes you are actually looking at the ‘potential’ brewing within them, rather than something that is obvious.
Frankly if you love your kids, are dealing with your problems or asking for help with your problems, and are doing the best you can, then you’ve pretty much cracked it and deserve an award. If every now and again you find a better way to do things and have a go, then that’s amazing.
Becoming a Mum has brought me back to the basics of life. I have some big plans, but there are times as a Mum when we need to take each day as it comes and not worry about ‘how’ we will get to the end point.
Just ‘keep on swimming’ as Dory says!
(In the olden days I would be full of deeply metaphysical and philosophical insights and quotes, now I quote ‘Finding Nemo’; just about says it all heh!).
Here’s an award, just for being you!
Oh and by the way, thankyou to everyone who did vote for me, I really appreciate it and had a lovely night as a finalist, and thank you to the Tots100 guys for all their hard work!!
UPDATE!!!!!!! BREAKING NEWS!!!!!!
OMG guess what I’m a winner after all!!! This photo of Jessie at Crazy Kitchen and Jen from Britmums/Jenography and the caption ‘What blogging events are all about’ won me a wonderful Nexus7 – thank you so much MADBlogAwards and Asus for picking me!