Tips on how to understand why we do what we do
So there’s a new facebook, and all the pallaver that goes with people adjusting to the new stuff. Please, before you run around madly worrying about privacy and facebook charging for things, check out this fabulous woman’s page called Mari Smith. She’ll set you right and I can’t possibly add a comment to all the […]
Last week I watch a fascinating program (if you are a nosey people watcher like me) about whether scientists could find scientific signs of ‘good’ or ‘evil’. If you haven’t seen it check out the BBC iPlayer for Horizon on BBC2. Anyway, I’ve been thinking about it for a bit, because some bits surprised me, […]
I confess, I have a bad habit of taking responsibility for stuff that isn’t my shit and getting knackered in the process. I’m about a zillion times better at it than I used to be, but I still have a tendency to be tempted. I think it comes from being a ‘young carer’ as they […]
The first time I heard this phrase ‘You Teach People How To Treat You’ was from Dr Phil Mcgraw. The idea is that how we behave encourages how other people react to us. Basically, we give people a ‘pay off’, which keeps them behaving in a certain way. Like when a child keeps being naughty, […]
So last week I talked about how difficult it is to not have purpose, and how everyone needs it from babies to dogs. The week before I talked about how politics doesn’t understand human behaviour. This week I wanted to talk about whether we are made by our background or can change it? Lots of […]
One Thing I Am TOTALLY sure of is that .. Everyone wants to be loved just as they are. We don’t want to be loved, despite our less attractive bits. We want to to be totally and unconditionally loved. This is true of us all, from the poorest to the richest, from the kindest to […]
So I thought I was doing pretty well to go on holiday for 2 weeks and hardly touch my phone at all. I kept thinking about how well I was doing ‘unplugged’. I was ignoring the quick check of my iPhone in the evenings. Plus the growing sense of desperation as the button on my […]
After writing my post ‘The problem with politics is it doesn’t understand human behaviour’, I’ve been thinking even more about the Riots, as I’m sure many others of you have done as well. I was mainly making the point in my post that it is psychologically detrimental to give people benefits for no fair exchange […]
I found tears in my eyes as I tried to explain the riots to Curly Headed Boy this morning (5.5yrs old). But I have had to explain something similar when local teens burnt down a pile of things near where I live. One blog post can’t explain away the whole of the London Riots, and […]
Bristol is a weird place, it has an odd magnetic nature. I remember a social worker telling me that they recommended that families didn’t move elderly relatives out of Bristol because they hardly ever reacted well to it. A few weeks ago we went back to my home town of Bristol to meet up with […]