This is part of my ‘Magic Switch’ course, which you can access for free in my facebook group ‘#MUMMYWHISPERER Tips’ – it’s aim is to help you literally wave a Magic Wand on your life!
It’s a bit of a tough talk to start off the course – but it WILL help you, and that’s what matters to me ….
When life is tough, often the people around us are stressed as well and the atmosphere becomes yucky (technical term!). So this is one you might want to share with the rest of the family!
Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I’d like you to spend the next 2 weeks making a concerted effort to do the following. Only because it will make you feel better, not because you are <insert whatever judgemental term you think I’m thinking>:
1) No Complaining:
I know life is tough, and certainly chat to a friend about it. But generally, try to hold off about complaining about your health, lack of weight loss, financial troubles, job etc.
If someone asks, don’t say ‘Fine’ – that unmistakable fake answer us British give. But say something like ‘Up and down’ or ‘On the up’ or ‘Getting easier’.
2) No Bitching:
I’m not suggesting you are a bitch. But when we are stressed it can be easy to end up complaining about people.
Yes, if you have a situation with someone, you might want to chat it over with a friend. But keep it factual, and stay away from guessing their motivations etc.
3) No Blame:
I’m not talking about big issues and saying people shouldn’t take responsibility for their actions. Just that sometimes finger pointing in the family doesn’t get us anywhere. Sometimes, we have to have reasonable expectations of our kids/partners and where they are at. Sometimes there isn’t anyone to blame, however much we would like there to be, because it would explain why it happened.
Shit happens.
Kids are kid.
Teenagers are sometimes!
Puppies chew sofas (well mine did last week – ugh!)
None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.
Here is a video to go into more depth about why complaining about life, bitching about other people and always trying to find someone or something to blame, won’t help you:
The aim is to reduce the negative, spiky energy around you – so we can start to add a lighter one. I promise it will help!
My kids have all left home now, youngest is 28, but still good advice.