Why Complaining, Bitching & Blaming won’t get you anywhere

This is part of my ‘Magic Switch’ course, which you can access for free in my facebook group ‘#MUMMYWHISPERER Tips’ – it’s aim is to help you literally wave a Magic Wand on your life!

It’s a bit of a tough talk to start off the course – but it WILL help you, and that’s what matters to me ….

When life is tough, often the people around us are stressed as well and the atmosphere becomes yucky (technical term!). So this is one you might want to share with the rest of the family!

Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I’d like you to spend the next 2 weeks making a concerted effort to do the following. Only because it will make you feel better, not because you are <insert whatever judgemental term you think I’m thinking>:

1) No Complaining:
I know life is tough, and certainly chat to a friend about it. But generally, try to hold off about complaining about your health, lack of weight loss, financial troubles, job etc.
If someone asks, don’t say ‘Fine’ – that unmistakable fake answer us British give. But say something like ‘Up and down’ or ‘On the up’ or ‘Getting easier’.

2) No Bitching:
I’m not suggesting you are a bitch. But when we are stressed it can be easy to end up complaining about people.
Yes, if you have a situation with someone, you might want to chat it over with a friend. But keep it factual, and stay away from guessing their motivations etc.

3) No Blame:
I’m not talking about big issues and saying people shouldn’t take responsibility for their actions. Just that sometimes finger pointing in the family doesn’t get us anywhere. Sometimes, we have to have reasonable expectations of our kids/partners and where they are at. Sometimes there isn’t anyone to blame, however much we would like there to be, because it would explain why it happened.
Shit happens.
Kids are kid.
Teenagers are sometimes!
Puppies chew sofas (well mine did last week – ugh!)
None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.

 

Here is a video to go into more depth about why complaining about life, bitching about other people and always trying to find someone or something to blame, won’t help you:

 

The aim is to reduce the negative, spiky energy around you – so we can start to add a lighter one.  I promise it will help!

Time For Change

 

So how are you feeling – is life going well, or are you looking for some changes this year?  If so, great – this year is going to be a good year for successful changes, I can feel it in my bones!

But there are a few things that you can do to make sure that you set the best goals and keep focussed on them during the year.  So I’ve created a free 8 day course for you to download to get you started with a bang!

It daily tips covering 3 areas:

Decluttering – because we need to get rid of the old to bring in the new
Coaching – to help you set great goals that means something to you
Health – because our body is the engine that helps us achieve those goals!

There are also 2 meditations – one to help you let go and one to help boost your new intention.

And a bonus masterclass on why goals & resolutions often fail and how to use the Law of Attraction to increase your success.

To download the course, just pop to this page on my main site and subscribe and it will be sent to you by email automatically.

I recommend that you also join my free facebook group and keep in touch with how you are doing!

My dream this year is to consistently touch the lives of 20,000 mums and help lift them up, so that they feel better.

I’ll be focussing on improving my health (I am SO much better), my kids and the Mummy Whisperer – I’ve got tonnes of news to tell you!

Good luck and may all your dreams come true this year – because we all deserve for our dreams to come true!

 

 

#ProjectSeptemberUpgrade – Taking steps towards your dream life

So September is nearly upon us – this is a wonderful time for new year resolutions, as we have started school in September for so many years, that it is almost written in our DNA that it’s time to ‘move up’.

Here is my facebook live giving you tips on how to upgrade your life, and there is a quick summary below for you as well.

One of the important parts of the Law of Attraction that people often forget whilst visualising ferrari’s is to ACT.  What’s often just as important is to start ‘acting as if’.  So in your new dream life with the amazing relationship or better financial set up or wonderful health, how would you be acting?  I’m not saying to start spending money now that you don’t have.  But rich people tend to manage and budget their money well (those that keep it anyway).  People in happy relationships tend to have a good relationship with themselves.  And so on …

Now I often talk about ‘upgrading’ your life for example your knicker drawer.  But recently I had a revelation when someone asked me to look at what I was ‘tolerating’ in my life and ‘what was not ok’!  Why was this so different?  Because I have a tendency to avoid conflict and ignore what I’m scared of.

When I bravely started to make my list (50-200 is recommended) – which is very long having juggled a business, young kids and an illness for so long – I started to feel a big shift.

There are 3 types of things:
1) The simple ones you can start to get going on quickly.
2) The ones that cost time and money that need to be planned and budgeted for.
3) The ones that involve other people – that can feel heavy to organise and sort out.

Once I started looking at (1); which involved an adaptor plug, new dish brush etc, I suddenly found that a huge (3) happened effortlessly and didn’t cost anywhere near as much of (2) as I expected.  There is LOADs of positive change happening.

Now originally I stared on this route because I am up for an award (subtle plug!) and realised that I needed to get all my ducks in a row – hence photos, new website, clarity on my strategy & plans etc.  It’s been a big journey for me and an even bigger one now that I’m looking more deeply at what I was ignoring.

So please do come and join in!
Like my facebook page and join my free facebook group ‘Create your dream life with the mummywhisperer‘ for tips, photos and ideas all the away through September.  There will be a free ‘Upgrade your money story’ course as well.

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