Sounds harsh heh, ‘stop whining and sort it out’: but you know what I mean don’t you? There comes a time when your friends need to stop listening to you, and kick you out the door telling you to do something about it all, or at least one of the things that you are whining about.
I’m the same; I do whine, even though I have a pretty low boredom threshold for problems, so I tend to be quite proactive about improving things. This year has been particularly hard, and in a way I haven’t whined too much on this blog, because I knew that it was going to be a long haul. However a few weeks ago I spent a lovely day with a couple of my Mummy Blogger mates, in the most glorious sunshine, and I basically puked whine and worry. Whilst therapeutic, and I know they are my mates, so they didn’t sit there saying ‘For god’s sake shut up Lisa’, I did feel guilty afterwards. Despite me saying that although I’m the ‘Mummy Whisperer’, not the ‘Perfect Mummy’, I do sometimes expect more of myself unreasonably/reasonably. So I’ve decided it’s time to knock some of the things off my worry/whine list and sort it out.
Did you see my recent blog posts about embracing the exhaustion so that you can work out what the matter is, and then make a plan? You don’t have to fix everything in one fail swoop, but pick a pile of little things to start with, and then pick something bigger. I’ve decided to concentrate on first my exhaustion, so I’ve refocussed my energy on food, sleep and dumped a pile of to do’s. Next on the list is a couple of things with the kids.
Hows about joining me in deciding to knock something off your worry/whine list? I’m happy to help …
- If you are exhausted, then read my exhaustion posts.
- If you are overweight, decide to change it and read my weight loss tips posts.
- If there are problems in your sex-life then keep reading all my posts about sex in marriage (which are soooo popular, that I’m beginning to think that I should organise them and make another weekly tip series, I just don’t have enough days in the week!).
- If you are struggling with depression, make a small start and try counting your blessings (I’ll write more about it and how powerful it can be soon). There are lots of books about it, I’ve even done a little ebook. But the basic idea is that you get a notebook and each night before you go to bed, you write what you can be grateful for. It might not ‘fix’ it, but it will help and give you more energy.
- If you have a bigger problem and nothing smaller to look at, as me for help in my question corner, or talk to a mate and ask for ideas for help, or read a book about it, or ask for other professional help.
If you don’t, how long are you willing to feel crap about it? It’s possible your answer is ‘a couple of years, because the kids are young’. If that’s true, then try the counting your blessings idea to get you through it. But if you are suddenly at the time where you are ready to change, then make the commitment NOW; do it here.
If not, your general enuie, lethargy, misery, or whatever is going to be written all over your face, and one day it will be etched there forever, like I told Curly Headed Boy. So today your video is ‘Brand New Day’ by Ryan Star, which is the theme tune to ‘Lie to me’ and has the subtitle of ‘The truth is written all over your face’. I hope that you decide it’s going to be a ‘Brand New Day’ as I have (I might need to remind myself a bit, over the next few weeks, but it’s a start heh).